Woman's Solution

I do not pretend to have a true solution to woman’s plight as it entails a choice between career and home but I do know that woman needs to take care of herself.  The nature of a woman is to care for others before herself and this is especially true if she is a mother.  But today’s woman is more than a wife and mother, she is also a joint breadwinner and as such she is carrying a double load.  For women who have remained single her load is equal to that of the married woman in the sense that she is existing on a single income in a double income market.  So yes, I do know whereof I speak.

       The most essential thing a woman must do is to carve out time for herself on a daily basis.  If this means that the toilet doesn’t get cleaned as regularly or that you must task someone else with the dishes then you must become a tyrant and force the issue.  It is imperative that a woman have, at a minimum, fifteen minutes of Me Time, a half hour would be better and an hour would be perfect but one must be realistic.  At least once a month a woman should have a half day to herself, twice a month would be even better.  And what should she do on her off time?  Whatever she wanted that was completely about her; whether it’s soaking in a bath with candles and soft music; giving herself a manicure; meditating in her own private sanctuary (even if that’s her locked bedroom); taking a walk in the nearest park; chatting with her best friend on the phone about something other than family and life in particular; a craft or hobby like sewing or scrapbooking, painting or taking pictures; something she loves for herself, no strings attached.  It sounds simple but it is astonishing the amount of women who don’t do this for themselves.

       I also believe it is important for a woman to understand what is going on with her mind, body and spirit and there is simply no way around it, a woman must read.  Watching self help shows like Dr. Phil, Oprah, The Doctors is fine but it is also a lot of noise (literally and figuratively speaking).  There is something soothing to the mind simply by reading another woman’s perspective of life and unless a woman has a handicap that bars her from reading, you owe it to yourself to enjoy a good book.  And I mean a book about women, for women, by women.  Even a cookbook that has wonderful side notes on the recipe, the food or the author’s experiences with that particular recipe.  Cookbooks create ambience, who knew!

       Women are remarkable creatures and in this season of celebrity awards I want to give an Award to Every Woman on this Planet.  We Rock, Baby!  . . . and we’re worth it . . . J