Recently I took the opportunity
to ask some leading questions of women who have had to make some significant
choices in their life respecting their careers and motherhood. I believe my generation of girls / women were
the first to really put some pressure on to take up a full time job after high
school and many more to continue their education with university degrees. Prior to this time it was generally those
with money and with a really strong drive to choose a professional career such
as medicine or law. Even engineering was
still considered a mainly “male” job and it was still another decade or two
before you really saw women entering this field.
But once in the work force
couples became dependent on that second pay cheque and when the “biological
clock” started ticking (and this was earlier for most women simply working a
regular type of job such as a secretary or clerk) there was considerable
discussion as to how the family would handle not only the economy but the
woman’s sense of empowerment in having a job or career.
Speaking with one professional
she said she had to make the choice with being available to her daughter which
took a hit on her career as a university professor working for tenure. She had to slow down in working on her thesis
but even so when she did work on it her daughter would ask her “is this a
working on the thesis night?” Another
professional chose to leave the upbringing of her children to her husband since
his career was somewhat less demanding than her high ambitions. Curiously enough her sons felt that
engineering was a “woman’s job” while their dad, a teacher and the cook in the
house, were manly work. Even in one
generation the roles can flip, which is a good thing I believe.
My mother has said for years that
the only one who has really benefited from working women is that tax man. He now gets income tax from females as well as
males.
But for families and especially
women it is a really tough decision to know how to “have it all”, a career and
motherhood, without feeling the guilt.
Interestingly, men still say that “they have to babysit the kids” if the
mother is working late. Moms never say
they have to babysit their own kids, this is called raising the kids. Not sure why men aren’t called out on this
more often.
One has to admire the resilience
of Working Mothers everywhere, it cannot be easy, even when they make it look
easy. My hat goes off to you.
“At work you think of the
children you have left at home. At home
you think of the work you’ve left unfinished.
Such a struggle is unleashed within yourself. Your heart is rent” Golda Meir
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