Do you ever wonder why
people seem to get a curve ball in their life just when things seem to be going
great for them? Is it Karma, is it a
case of “what goes around comes around?”
Or is that simply the ebb and flow of life, where everyone gets a little
bit of good and a little bit of bad along with a whole lot of the
mediocre? I don’t have the answer but I
have observed in my own life and in those around me that we seem to get a whole
mixed bag of life.
At the time when you are going over
a rough spot, you probably feel as though it is the worst thing possible that
could happen to you. When something
nasty happens to me I like to remind myself of something a friend told me a few
years back. She asked me “is it going to
make a difference five years down the road?
Did someone die? If you can
answer no to either of those questions, don’t worry so much about it!” Words to live by. Otherwise we simply end up putting way too
much drama into our lives that doesn’t need to be there.
I will admit that I am overly
sensitive to bad behaviours; I have a really hard accepting it when people act
out in wrong ways. I have that INFJ
personality that believes in fairness and justness and when the world doesn’t
jive to my music I get a bit perturbed. At
the same time, I do recognize that this is my personality and I will tell
myself “this is out of your control, let it go” but telling myself that and
actually doing it can be hard.
In case you are wondering what has
gone wrong in my life lately, the answer is nothing. I am just watching how other people around me
are behaving these days due to circumstances that actually was in their
control. Not well. Blaming others is not the answer people. Examine your own behaviour and take ownership
(sorry to use so many clichés) of your behaviour and your decisions. Blaming others for what is wrong in your life
is really not the answer. Let’s face it,
will you get anything out of that kind of blame? No, no, no.
All you will get is bitterness and aggravation. A person is so much better off taking a look
at what really went wrong, even if you don’t want to entirely admit it was your
fault, you really should look at it from that angle and learn from it.
I am not perfect, but I do try to learn
from mistakes. Even if I don’t necessarily think I made a mistake I will still
listen and take a page out of that book.
Maybe I didn’t do wrong, but I can still learn. And perhaps I did do wrong, then for sure I
won’t be doing that act next time. The
best thing I can do for myself and others can do for themselves, is to LISTEN. I had an experience yesterday where the
person I was talking to clearly did not hear a word I said. The moment it sounded as though I were
blaming him for a certain thing, he tuned out and began formulating all the
reasons why I was in the wrong. What can
you possible say to a person like that?
Nothing, it’s a waste of breath.
A person like that will shoot himself in the foot time and time
again.
Seriously people, I am 58 not 12;
when I say something believe I am serious and that I am not picking a fight
with you, I am telling you how I feel. Walking
away in anger and then sending an erroneous email does not make you right. It just makes you look stupid. And I give up!
Have a nice day!
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