Shamsh recruited a lovely, shy
young lady into her group by the name of Lin.
Lin has become a special treasure to me with her lovely heart, her
incredible capacity for caring and her devotion to me (and what can be more endearing than that).
It started out of course as a
work thing. My own new assistant Marife
bonded with Lin and Lin was amazed at how much Marife and I connected as a team
(and later as friends). Lin did not have
the same relationship with Shamsh and so she watched the teamwork I had with
Marife; she had "boss envy". I noted the observation and it
was not long before I had her under my wing and took care to include her in
events to give her a sense of belonging.
Lin had at that time been in Canada (via China) for about 7 years and
except for some Chinese friends she had only one other friend who was not
Chinese.
I first became her mentor but as
time went on we became very good friends and later still I felt that I was like
a foster mother to Lin. I also made a
great connection with her husband Sean.
My brother John worked closely with Lin for a while and the 4 of us get
together often for lunch and great, great conversations. I love hearing about China, their immigration
experience and their life philosophies. Something
that would tickle me was how Lin would describe Sean as a banana and she as a mango. He is yellow inside and out while she is
yellow outside but white on the inside.
In other words, she has embrace Canadian life in a way that Sean has
not. I just think it is a funny and cute
way of recognizing differences without disparagement (or so I see it anyway).
I believe that I am honest when I
way that I don’t see people for their ethnicity (I don’t mean I am blind but
just that these things don’t resonate with me when I meet people and certainly
have zero meaning for me once the calling for friendship begins). Lin is a particularly interesting person
because she is very analytical not only in cultural ways but also deeply philosophical. We have some terrific conversations and I
have learned a lot from a lady who is 2 decades younger than I. Lin is my first friend to be so much younger
than I and I find that a true blessing because it does give me a lot of
perspective on what is going on in the world outside my comfort zone.
Her husband Sean also brings an
entirely different perspective to our friendship and I enjoy him a great
deal. It is funny to see Lin become
territorial over me when she puts him in his place and says “she is my friend”
and I remind her that there is enough of me to go around.
Another friend who gives me two for the price of
one.
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